The Wrong Question Still Leads Somewhere: Revealing Your Timeline of Healing

We want to get it right.

We want clarity, direction, a purpose we can name.

But healing doesn’t always start with clarity.

It often starts with confusion. With chaos.

With asking the wrong question.

And yet—

The wrong question still leads somewhere.

Lessons from the Wrong Turns

I’ve asked the wrong questions many times.

I’ve Googled “how to be happy” when what I really meant was,

“how do I stop hurting?”

I tried to “fix” myself by stacking good habits on top of deep wounds.

I worked out, meditated, journaled, and cleansed—

all while ignoring the ache that lived underneath it all.

But none of that was wasted.

Because every step, every attempt to get it right,

was actually bringing me closer to what I needed to learn.

There Are No Wasted Steps

That’s the beautiful, frustrating truth.

Even the wrong path teaches us.

Sometimes, you have to chase the wrong answer

to learn what you don’t need.

To build awareness.

To recognize patterns.

To bump into yourself in the dark

and begin to remember your wholeness.

Everything on the path—especially the detours—

has something to teach us.

Alignment Isn’t Always Immediate

We like to imagine that alignment is a destination.

That one day we’ll get there—to clarity, to joy, to purpose.

But most of the time, alignment begins quietly

while we’re stumbling forward, arms outstretched,

trying to make sense of a life we didn’t plan.

And then something shifts.

We stop chasing.

We start listening.

We feel something settle, and realize:

Maybe we’re not lost.

Maybe we’re becoming.

The Timeline of Healing Is Not Linear

This is another chapter in my Timeline of Healing.

A reminder to myself—and maybe to you—

that there are no wasted questions, no wrong roads,

no journeys without meaning.

Even the wrong ones carve the road beneath our feet.

So if you’ve been asking the wrong question,

walking the wrong road,

searching in all the places that haven’t given you what you thought you needed…

Take a breath.

You’re not off track.

You’re still becoming.

And this part of the journey counts, too.