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Paradigm Shift – Discover What You Really Need

Updated: May 25, 2022

SMART Principles – Paradigm Shift

Typically people create a goal that is doable and meaningful then apply SMART principles. That is an acronym coined in the journal Management Review in 1981 for specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time bound. However, we need a paradigm shift.

The SMART paradigm is great advice but is incomplete. It fails to explain how to create a goal in the first place. Most people concentrate on the wrong thing for the wrong reasons. SMART principles are unable to redirect focus when necessary.

To create positive change in your life, the prerequisite is to discover your needs. Manifesting with the moon is a healing process where you explore and discover things about yourself. This provides a framework to intentionally create your life based on how you want to feel.

Let us say, for example, you have a great support network of family and friends, you are physically and socially active, engaged in personal pursuits, and you are satisfied with your career choice. However, at the end of the day you go home alone, typically eat dinner alone, go to bed alone, and wake up alone. That one aspect of your life where you feel an intense loneliness can negatively affect your life even though you have other fulfilling relationships. In this example, the identified need in this person’s life is companionship.

When you can experience happiness and joy while with family and friends and accomplishment professionally, shows us that focusing on how you want to feel overall is not the starting place. Therefore, to create the correct goal or resolution for yourself, first you must identify the need or discover what is missing or lacking in your life.

Discover What You Really Need

The heart wants what the heart wants. Satisfying your wants can be exciting in the short-term. Focusing on needs may not seem as thrilling, but that is how you satisfy your wants in the long-term.

In keeping with the above example, someone who focuses on those lonely evenings finds them self in a bar every night where, eventually, this person finds a non-ideal relationship just so they are not alone. Let us say this relationship lacks respect and honesty, which are important things in relationships.

While wanting so badly to not be alone at night, your focus is on negative emotions and aspects of your life (i.e., your loneliness). You must focus on how you want to feel when you find a fulfilling relationship that has everything you want. You attract what you think of most, so start thinking about what you really want… and believe it is on its way!

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Focusing on the need for companionship and how you want to feel when you find the right person shifts your attention to how you want to experience that relationship. Shifting your focus makes you feel grateful right now for the friendship you know you will find that has all the qualities and values that you want in a deep connection.

We all have core needs that, when met, leads to a fuller, more satisfying life. To create change you will stick with, identify your needs that require fulfillment to enrich your daily life, and work towards balancing your overall wellbeing.

This is where your new adventure begins. Manifesting with the moon is not easy, but the energetic shift you experience in your life will be profound.

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