The Only Key To Success: How To Create Change
- donna conley
- Feb 24, 2022
- 3 min read
Updated: Jan 30
Make the Change About You
Recognizing the need for change is the first step toward transformation. But here's the key: You hold the power to unlock that change. This key is uniquely yours, and it's not about fitting old solutions, like procrastination or self-doubt, into new circumstances—it’s about being open to doing things differently to create something new. The power to change lies within you and that’s what makes all the difference.

Shift Your Mindset: It's About Willingness, Not Effort
Instead of asking, "What am I willing to do to make this change?" ask yourself, "What am I willing to change to make this happen?" The former implies that you’re ready to sacrifice parts of yourself or push against what feels right for you, which often leads to chaos, crisis, and stress. But embracing change as a willingness to evolve shifts your energy and thoughts toward personal responsibility, empowering you to take charge of your future.
Old Patterns Won't Lead to New Results
A previous version of yourself—one shaped by old thoughts and behaviors—cannot see the new horizons, opportunities, or success you desire. If you want to achieve something different, you must approach it differently. This means embracing an authentic approach, one that is true to your values, beliefs, and desires and aligns with who you truly are.
This isn’t about following trends or imitating someone else’s path to success. It’s about recognizing your unique strengths, values, and desires and aligning your actions. Doing so will attract and create positive change that truly resonates with you.
Desire Isn’t Enough—You Need to Understand Your ‘Why’
Simply wishing for change isn’t enough. It’s not just about wanting something different—it’s about understanding why you want it. The ‘why’ must be rooted in a deeper connection with yourself, in how you want to feel, not what others expect.
This level of self-awareness is not just a strategy; it's a powerful tool that you can use to shape your life. Cultivated through consistent mindfulness, knowing your ‘why’ is the foundation of meaningful and lasting change, giving you the power to steer your life in the direction you desire.
The Pitfall of External Validation
When the motivation for change is based on impressing others, earning their respect, or changing how they perceive you, you are setting yourself up for failure. Your happiness should not depend on someone else’s approval. By avoiding external validation, you are asserting your independence and taking control of your own happiness.
True change comes from within. It feels authentic when your desires, values, and goals drive it. You'll feel accomplished, worthy, and happy when you change for yourself because it aligns with your truth. This self-assuredness and confidence are the marks of true, meaningful change.
Create Change - Hold the Key to Your Success
To ensure that you hold the key to your happiness, shift your focus to how you want to feel when you achieve your goals. This isn't about disregarding others but prioritizing your well-being and mental and physical health. Your well-being should always be the focal point of any change.
Understanding how you want to feel is the secret to success. Visualize your success—see yourself healthy, happy, and aligned with your true desires. Keep envisioning your future self until you can feel that happiness in the present moment. When you can feel it now, you’ve connected deeply with your ‘why.’
At that moment, you can confidently say that you hold the key to your happiness because you’ve found your inspiration.
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